A very wise friend once told me that success isn't created in heroic effort. It's done in little minuscule day by day ordinary efforts. Success is born out of consistency. Success is boring and largely unnoticed by others until one day they wake up and ask you for your secret. They haven't noticed your daily toils and struggles. They aren't interested in the unsexy truth of adherence to small changes. They want it fast and marketers are there to deliver. Lose 10 pounds in 10 days, join my gym and get your six-pack, take my workshop and be a world famous writer/photographer/singer. You get the idea.
Right now many thousands of people are plotting out workout plans they know they won't stick to long term. They have signed up for gym memberships they have no intention of using. They have bought a book on whatever the latest diet craze is (probably Ketogenic) and are swearing to themselves that this time it will stick. They are lying to themselves and somebody is getting rich selling them a treadmill and butter coffee.
Don't fall for it. You're better than this. It's not judgement on my part. I've fallen for it many times. I did Atkins, I did the cabbage soup diet, signed up for the gym, went to aerobics (let's just forget that one) and bought a weight set for my basement. It wasn't until I changed my lifestyle and my attitude that lasting change happened. I had to be willing to be on outlier. Now here I sit, leading an active lifestyle, healthy, fit and thin by any measure of modern human adults and I'm cringing at my past mistakes and those being made by others all around me. We know better. We really do.
You want to know the secret? Beware, it isn't sexy. It doesn't happen overnight. But it will lead to lasting change free from restriction, calorie shaming and yo-yo dieting. It will lead to active lifestyle habits that you enjoy rather than dread. Here is the secret. Get off your ass, just a little each day. If you need to start by walking 30 minutes a day, 15 minutes, 5 minutes....one Goddamn minute. Don't restrict your diet. Add to it. Eat a salad every day. Can't do that? How about a stick of celery. Come on, you can do a stick of celery. At the end of the year you'll have eaten 365 sticks of celery that otherwise would have never passed your lips.
What will happen is you'll surprise yourself. All your friends and loved ones will experience 6 weeks of heroic change and then sink back into the pit of despair. You'll envy their temporary success then quietly say nothing when they quit their newest "can't miss thing." Nobody will notice you. Pretty soon that stick of celery and 5 minute walk will turn into you eating vegetables every day, fruit, healthy food....every....day. You'll have less room for burgers and fries, pizza and beer. That 1 minute walk will turn into an hour. Maybe you'll finally have the energy to take up that sport you love..... running, curling, lacrosse, hockey......dancing. Whatever. The thing is you love it, you enjoy moving because it doesn't hurt anymore. Everyone else is paying $49 a month for their gym membership and you're living life.
The weight will drop, your health will improve. You'll look better and people will start to notice. Then they'll ask....what's the secret. Now's your chance, write a book, build a plan, create a diet.....sell it for $99 in 2019.